What stops us from creating what we desire?

In "Ask and It is Given" by Esther and Jerry Hicks, the concept of an emotional setpoint was introduced.

What that means is that while we may experience great joys and deep sorrows or pain, eventually our emotional levels return to what is our current emotional setpoint...or to put it another way...how we normally feel.

How we normally feel is what we view as our reality.

When our emotions finally settle down, we often say things like, "I came back down to earth" or "I came back to reality."

What we are unconsciously saying here is that we have reconnected ourselves to our current emotional setpoint.

Our current emotional setpoint at any given time is the total created by the emotions connected to all of our conscious and unconscious beliefs...and there is an emotion connected to these beliefs along with many of our memories.

Psychologists have proven that somewhere between 80 and 90% of our beliefs are unconscious to us and were formed in early childhood. If we had a stable, loving childhood and our parents came from stable, loving families, it's likely that we will grow up to be confident, loving adults.

If our childhoods had instabilities such as divorce, moving around a lot, caretakers with physical or mental illnesses or even something as innocuous as over-protective parents, then we grow up with a vastly different perspective on our lives...and reality.

Now a simple analogy to how our emotional setpoint works is to imagine that our emotional state is much like being in a hot air balloon. The joys, love and peace that we have experienced in life pull us ever higher...but the pain, anger and fear keep pulling us down.

Wherever that balance is...is our emotional setpoint.

For some that setpoint may be that they are primarily an optimistic person. They may have moments of sheer joy, but they still have enough sadness to pull them back down to optimism.

For others, their setpoint may stay centered mostly around anger.

Now as it's explained in "Ask and It Is Given," anger is actually higher on the emotional scale than depression...but if anger is someone's normal emotional setpoint, they have a tremendous amount of pain buried in their sub-conscious.

Most people do not willingly delve into the sub-conscious to face their pain...until they begin to understand how that pain is creating the reality they see around them.

So if we go back to my previous post, remember that we are all Vibrational Beings. This is not a philosophical theory...but it is where spirituality and science have met and agreed.

We are Vibrational Beings...and we are constantly sending out a signal to the Universe.

That signal says: Bring me experiences to match what the vibration I am transmitting.

And we do get those experiences. But if we are unconscious to how this process works, we blame the people or circumstances that come into our lives as the problem...instead of realizing that they are simply the response to the signals that we are transmitting.

That's why no matter what you are experiencing in your present reality, if you want to change it, you must focus on what you want...not on what you are currently experiencing. Because what you are currently experiencing is what you created based on signals you have already sent.

If you want your future to be different than your present, then you must change the signals you are transmitting in the present!

How do we do that?

One way is Forgiveness. I have explained in one of my past posts a simple Forgiveness process anyone can do in order to forgive. The best way is to work with a coach or counselor...someone who can be objective and walk you through how to do this most effectively.

Most people do not forgive because they mistakenly believe that if they forgive someone for doing something to them, that means they are saying that they're okay with it.

That's not what Forgiveness mean.

Forgiveness means that you no longer want to carry around the pain, anger, fear that is attached to whatever that person did to you and you want to let it go. The act of forgiveness is done with the understanding that we realize that holding onto these negative emotions will continue to attract experiences into our lives that match these vibrational signals.

This is why many of us get out of a bad relationship only to attract the same situation again.

It is important to understand for anyone who undertakes the task of releasing these negative emotions from our past...that it is not your fault that you have these.

Like I said earlier, our perceptions were created at a very early age in life. Most psychologists estimate that this occurs before the age of five.

So the way we learn to perceive life is not our fault. We cannot hold a three or four year old child responsible...the three or four year old child that still exists within us.

But as adults, it is our responsibility to help that child heal.

When we help that child to heal, our emotional setpoint rises...and just like being in a big hot air balloon, the higher we rise, the more we can see...that we simply couldn't before.

If you can think of any situation in your life, whether it is a recent divorce or something that happened to you as a child...if you feel bad when you think of it, you are still carrying that emotion...and that emotion is still attracting experiences that match that vibration.

Learning to feel and release your feelings takes practice, but because it is a natural feeling, it is something that when practiced comes easier and easier.

If we don't feel our feelings, it's because we were taught not to. Not feeling our feelings is not something that comes naturally to us.

There are other ways to release emotions and I will talk more about this later.

Just remember - no two things can occupy the same space at the same time.

So if you want to replace your fear with something, replace it with what you want vibrating out into the world...love, peace and joy.

Namaste

Jeff